I recently received an e-mail from a reader who is the devoted daughter of an 85 year old mother who's husband of 60 years is now in a nursing home.
The daughter and her sister live nearby and take care of their mother's needs. Their mother is a hoot, they enjoy being with her but would like to see her have some lady friends.
They have tried getting their lonely mum involved in various activities but to no avail.
She asked for suggestions from me.
This was my reply to her:
Dear Devoted Daughter,Now I'm asking Millie's readers for their thoughts. How can the daughters help their mum "get out there" and show the world that "she is a hoot?"
Your mother is a lucky woman to have two daughters that care for her the way that they do. You say you have suggested things for her to do but she doesn't want to do them.
That's the rub - she has to help herself.
Maybe you could go with her to some Senior Center or an event at a library, get her to feel comfortable there and then gradually drop her off and see how she manages on her own.
Look for some other lady who is there by herself also, someone in the same boat as she is.
What interests does she have? Bingo, knitting, current events, books, movies, art, cooking - whatever- something to get her going! That way she might find another lady with the same interest.
It's worth a try!
Tell her, Hello from another 85 year old!! ;-)
Wishing you the best,
Millie
Also, if you have any questions, ask away!